[Podcast Ep 5] What is your partner trying to tell you that you aren’t hearing?
Hello Everyone!
The next episode of my podcast is out! Episode 5: What is your partner trying to tell you that you aren’t hearing?
Are you noticing that your partner has been easily upset about little things? Escalating situations that really didn’t have to be that big a deal?
Or have they been distant? Pulled back and you can feel a quiet seething in the energy when you are around them?
Maybe it feels frustrating, annoying… maybe you feel like you are losing them… like you can’t feel them the way you once did.
Maybe you even feel like, ‘Who is this person? This isn’t the person that I married/chose to partner with… what’s happening here?’
These behaviors can feel like they are pushing you away... and yet, they may just be a call for help. An unconscious way of expressing things that they haven’t known how to express OR things they have tried to express and have felt dismissed.
In this episode, we go over what your partner might be trying to tell you and what may be going on under the surface.
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Charu
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Summary
Charu discusses the importance of understanding unspoken communication cues from partners, drawing parallels with a toddler's behavior when feeling unheard.
She highlights two common responses: escalating behavior or withdrawing energy. She emphasizes the need to address these cues to restore balance and connection in relationships, based on their experience working with couples.The conversation discusses signs in a relationship where one partner may feel disconnected or frustrated, possibly due to the other partner experiencing something they are not aware of. She suggests approaching the situation with kindness and expressing concern for the relationship's well-being rather than blaming or demanding solutions. Encouraging self-inquiry and seeking support is recommended for partners in a vulnerable or disoriented state.
Charu acknowledges the listeners desire to feel closer to their partner even when they notice a barrier between them. She suggests seeking support from a friend, counselor, or therapist to address the issue causing distance and discusses scenarios where partners may not feel heard or safe in expressing themselves, emphasizing the importance of creating a safe emotional space for communication in relationships.
The conversation discusses how to address issues when a partner is either escalating or shutting down. It suggests reasons for this behavior, such as feeling unheard or unsafe. Practical tips include working on being assertive, stable, and non-defensive when asking your partner about their feelings. It emphasizes the importance of seeking third-party support if the situation becomes overwhelming.
She highlights the need for self-awareness and empathy in addressing their partner's concerns effectively suggesting expressing love and a desire for closeness, addressing feelings of distance, and inviting open communication.
Active listening is emphasized, where one repeats back what they heard without adding opinions. This technique helps understand and validate the partner's feelings, fostering deeper connection and resolving misunderstandings. Gratitude for sharing and acknowledging one's own emotions are also encouraged for a meaningful exchange.
Charu also emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and seeking support in intimate relationships when triggers arise. They stress the need for validation and communication in addressing challenging dynamics. Encouragement is given to openly share feelings with care and tenderness, starting with self-inquiry and seeking support. The intention of fostering closeness and understanding is highlighted as crucial in navigating difficult conversations within relationships.
She emphasizes the importance of approaching difficult conversations in relationships with love and care, offering invitations for dialogue rather than blame. Setting aside a specific time for discussion allows both partners to prepare and engage willingly. Receiving a "no" from a partner repeatedly may indicate a lack of willingness to address issues, prompting a reevaluation of the relationship's growth potential. It is crucial for partners to be able to navigate challenging moments together for a partnership to thrive.
She discusses the importance of addressing defensiveness in communication with a partner. She suggests seeking outside support if needed and allowing time for reflection after difficult conversations. Charu acknowledges the complexity of relationships and the need for individualized approaches. It's crucial to communicate openly in relationships to avoid escalating tensions. Ignoring issues can strain intimacy.
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