[Podcast Ep 6] Why you have grown apart sexually and the key to ever-evolving, incredible sex in long term relationship.
Hello Everyone!
GREAT sex, like truly otherworldly, mind-blowing, life-changing sex is borne out of true intimacy and connection. We find that kind of intimacy and connection when we untangle what we have been hiding behind or protecting ourselves with…. When we can identify why we haven’t been feeling ‘safe’ to open to our partner, when we can work together to untangle dynamics and allow for vulnerability.
Vulnerability breeds intimacy, intimacy opens the door for the sweetest altered states in lovemaking to come through.
In this weeks episode, we are looking at why you have grown apart sexually…
We are going to deep dive into the dynamics that may be getting in the way of this potential for deeper sensual/sexual connection. What is a relational dynamic? Where do they come from? Why do we get stuck there?
If you have been feeling that it has been difficult to come together sexually or maybe even that feeling sexually connected to your partner feels a million miles away and you don’t know how to get back to it… this is the episode for you.
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Summary
Why you have grown apart sexually…
Often times this is interlinked with other dynamics within the relationship… almost always… see episode 5 What is your partner trying to tell you that you haven’t been able to hear?
I believe in sex not as an addition to partnership that’s a fun bonus, but as a bonding experience that when it’s going well and nourishing it can make everything else in partnership SO MUCH EASIER.
DYNAMICS of relating get in the way of why we are not feeling as connected sexually.
What are these? The patterns we get into in relationship that are repetitive, they become a dynamic when they are ‘set in’… when we are looping in certain behaviors. These dynamics are usually based on experiences we had in early childhood where we learned different techniques to cope with things in our environment (ex. Unmet needs, fear, managing situations that felt unsafe) and we are employing techniques we learned/created at that time in our life to survive.
We are likely employing these techniques from childhood in everything we do! And this is not wrong or bad… just maybe outdated as a grown up… it’s likely pointing us towards an opportunity to explore with our now matured system what is it that is making us feel reactive in these ways. So, how can we be supported to digest some of these experiences and discover who we are beyond the protection of those coping mechanisms or reactions.
Intimate relationship best place to become conscious of ideas that may be keeping us from intimacy from deeper connection
THIS is why how I teach about sex is different… I’m not teaching about press this, fiddle that… I’m always looking at ‘the things that come between us’…
GREAT sex, like truly otherworldly, mind-blowing, life-changing sex is borne out of true intimacy and connection. We find that kind of intimacy and connection when we untangle what we have been hiding behind or protecting ourselves with…. When we can identify why we haven’t been feeling ‘safe’ to open to our partner, when we can work together to untangle dynamics and experience true repair (a future episode).
Once we have felt even a moment of true repair, we can allow for vulnerability… vulnerability breeds intimacy, intimacy opens the door for altered states to come through.
Seeking support can help navigate difficult dynamics. Visit charumorgan.com for one-on-one support.