How I would like to be made love to...
How would you like to be made love to?
(This writing is generously shared by a participant of The Awaken Weekend, it comes from an exercise we do in the workshop. Click HERE to learn more. Keep reading to try the exercise yourself!)
I'm making a cup of tea, he comes up behind me so I can feel the warmth of his body, he moves the hair off my neck, he starts kissing me so softly. He swoops (yes, I'd like to be swooped if possible) me up in his arms and carries me into the bedroom and lays me down on the bed.
He softly kisses my forehead, then my eyelids, my cheeks... when he gets to my lips he hovers over them with his lips, but does not make contact. He is hovering over my body, his arms on either side of me and his legs are straddling my pelvis. I'm relaxed and feeling totally safe beneath him. He takes several breaths like this and the energy between our bodies rises.
He presses my thighs open with one of his knees so my legs open to him. He brings his body so close to mine, but not touching. Just allowing me to feel the tension between us. He smells my neck and rubs his cheek against mine. He tells me to just relax and that he is here to give to me with no pressure for where this will go.
He sits back onto his heels and looks at me lovingly. He tells me how beautiful I am to him as he starts to unbutton my shirt. He is actively delighted as he undresses me and he takes his time enjoying and verbally honoring each part of me.
Once I'm naked he moves to sit beside my body, he warms his hands by rubbing them together and hovers them over my body. Starting near my face and slowly moving his way down to my feet. Even though he isn't touching me yet I can feel the warmth from his hands as they hover over me and it's allowing my body to soften and melt.
Once his hands have hovered over my whole body, he allows the weight of his hands to rest on me and begins with gentle, loving strokes all over, inviting me to relax even more deeply.
He moves his body to sit behind my head and starts to stroke my hair and my cheeks. I LOVE my cheeks being stroked!!!
Eventually, he puts some massage oil on his hands and brings the palms of his hands to rest on my nipples. I feel the relationship building between his hands and the energy in my breasts. He takes his time and breathes with me as the connection is established.
He begins to massage me with circles around the breasts, beginning with a larger circle and then winding in towards the nipples. Then rolling the nipples between his fingers. He tells me how good my body feels in his hands as he massages me.
I can feel that he is becoming aroused, but I feel no pressure to 'do' anything to him and he reminds me this time is for me.
After a few repetitions of the circles around my breasts, I begin to fall into a rolling orgasm. It flows through my body, originating from my breasts and my body rolls and rolls with pleasure. My body is opening in such a rich way I can no longer just be the receiver. I have become hungry and swooning to please him....
Of course, there can be much more to this story, but I'll pause there for now.
When you journal about this for yourself, you may also want to write a bit today and then come back to it tomorrow. Let it simmer and allow yourself to savor all the flavors of it.
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With love,
Charu
Try the writing exercise yourself…
How do you like to be made love to?
This is one of the questions you will be encouraged to ask yourself in the upcoming Virtual Awaken Weekend. It can be a harder question than it seems. Many of us haven't taken the time to really think about what we ourselves would truly like to experience. Many of us have been focused on our partner and what they want in bed. We may have even felt a little awkward about really allowing ourselves to consider what we want.
And yet, allowing ourselves to truly consider how we might like our lover to approach us, even if we have never experienced anything like what we truly want, helps us to get clear on what we desire, what will open us, what will make us feel closer to our partner, what creates sexual safety for us.
If we don't know it ourselves, we cannot express it to our partner and work together to really enjoy our lovemaking. We can't be truly surprised by lovemaking. I love it when lovemaking surprises me. It's usually not because the things that happened were radically different, it's usually because I've felt heard, loved, safe, well cared for and seen.
An exploration of how we would like to be made love to is different than a sexual fantasy (although those are exciting to explore too). It starts out as a true journey of discovery.
Who are you and what might you really want in bed?
And if you can't answer that question, what parts of yourself would you need to get to know in order to answer it?
I encourage you to journal about this just for yourself and see what you discover. See if you can feel your body becoming aroused as you envision and write. That's a great way to know you are getting to the heart of what you desire.
If you are interested in exploring more about who you are sexually and how to experience deeper love, join us for the upcoming Awaken Weekend. We will be going into deep relaxation, vibrant body-activation and getting to know ourselves sexually in new ways.