Is there something in sex that you haven't yet discovered?

Who doesn't love orgasms? Ammiright?

I love peak intensity orgasms and I love the exploration and engagement with them in lovemaking.

...and

What if our drive to have that orgasm and heading down that familiar road is keeping us from a delicious road less traveled? A road with lots of delicious new kinds of pleasure and orgasm...

In this video I explore how things often go when we are enjoying sex and why we might want to be open to other possibilities.

If you are interested in learning more about how you can enhance your sexual experience (alone or with a partner) our next upcoming virtual class is:

“Bring Great Sex Into the Bedroom with You…”
Virtual Class
Thursday, Oct 26th, 2023
7pm - 8:30/9pm PST
$40 per person ($45 after Oct 16th)

*All genders welcome! 

*Practices will be done solo, but partners are welcome to join as well as individuals. Special couples early bird rate only $80!

To learn more click HERE. If you are ready to register, click HERE!

Warmly,
Charu

P.S. Wanting more one-on-one in depth work either on your own or with a partner? Check out our private immersions for couples and individuals

How I would like to be made love to...

How would you like to be made love to?

(This writing is generously shared by a participant of The Awaken Weekend, it comes from an exercise we do in the workshop. Click HERE to learn more. Keep reading to try the exercise yourself!)

I'm making a cup of tea, he comes up behind me so I can feel the warmth of his body, he moves the hair off my neck, he starts kissing me so softly. He swoops (yes, I'd like to be swooped if possible) me up in his arms and carries me into the bedroom and lays me down on the bed.

He softly kisses my forehead, then my eyelids, my cheeks... when he gets to my lips he hovers over them with his lips, but does not make contact. He is hovering over my body, his arms on either side of me and his legs are straddling my pelvis. I'm relaxed and feeling totally safe beneath him. He takes several breaths like this and the energy between our bodies rises.

He presses my thighs open with one of his knees so my legs open to him. He brings his body so close to mine, but not touching. Just allowing me to feel the tension between us. He smells my neck and rubs his cheek against mine. He tells me to just relax and that he is here to give to me with no pressure for where this will go.

He sits back onto his heels and looks at me lovingly. He tells me how beautiful I am to him as he starts to unbutton my shirt. He is actively delighted as he undresses me and he takes his time enjoying and verbally honoring each part of me.

Once I'm naked he moves to sit beside my body, he warms his hands by rubbing them together and hovers them over my body. Starting near my face and slowly moving his way down to my feet. Even though he isn't touching me yet I can feel the warmth from his hands as they hover over me and it's allowing my body to soften and melt.

Once his hands have hovered over my whole body, he allows the weight of his hands to rest on me and begins with gentle, loving strokes all over, inviting me to relax even more deeply.

He moves his body to sit behind my head and starts to stroke my hair and my cheeks. I LOVE my cheeks being stroked!!!

Eventually, he puts some massage oil on his hands and brings the palms of his hands to rest on my nipples. I feel the relationship building between his hands and the energy in my breasts. He takes his time and breathes with me as the connection is established.

He begins to massage me with circles around the breasts, beginning with a larger circle and then winding in towards the nipples. Then rolling the nipples between his fingers. He tells me how good my body feels in his hands as he massages me.

I can feel that he is becoming aroused, but I feel no pressure to 'do' anything to him and he reminds me this time is for me.

After a few repetitions of the circles around my breasts, I begin to fall into a rolling orgasm. It flows through my body, originating from my breasts and my body rolls and rolls with pleasure. My body is opening in such a rich way I can no longer just be the receiver. I have become hungry and swooning to please him....

Of course, there can be much more to this story, but I'll pause there for now.

When you journal about this for yourself, you may also want to write a bit today and then come back to it tomorrow. Let it simmer and allow yourself to savor all the flavors of it.

If this inspired you, read below to try the exercise yourself and consider joining us for The Awaken Weekend!

Join our mailing list to learn more.

Please feel free to contact us if you have any questions.

With love,

Charu

Try the writing exercise yourself…

How do you like to be made love to?

This is one of the questions you will be encouraged to ask yourself in the upcoming Virtual Awaken Weekend. It can be a harder question than it seems. Many of us haven't taken the time to really think about what we ourselves would truly like to experience. Many of us have been focused on our partner and what they want in bed. We may have even felt a little awkward about really allowing ourselves to consider what we want.

And yet, allowing ourselves to truly consider how we might like our lover to approach us, even if we have never experienced anything like what we truly want, helps us to get clear on what we desire, what will open us, what will make us feel closer to our partner, what creates sexual safety for us.

If we don't know it ourselves, we cannot express it to our partner and work together to really enjoy our lovemaking. We can't be truly surprised by lovemaking. I love it when lovemaking surprises me. It's usually not because the things that happened were radically different, it's usually because I've felt heard, loved, safe, well cared for and seen.

An exploration of how we would like to be made love to is different than a sexual fantasy (although those are exciting to explore too). It starts out as a true journey of discovery.

Who are you and what might you really want in bed?

And if you can't answer that question, what parts of yourself would you need to get to know in order to answer it?

I encourage you to journal about this just for yourself and see what you discover. See if you can feel your body becoming aroused as you envision and write. That's a great way to know you are getting to the heart of what you desire.

If you are interested in exploring more about who you are sexually and how to experience deeper love, join us for the upcoming Awaken Weekend. We will be going into deep relaxation, vibrant body-activation and getting to know ourselves sexually in new ways.

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Beyond what you have been taught is the sex you have been longing for...

Hello Everyone,

How are things?

In my personal world and for those that I am close to, it has been a whirlwind of a few weeks. Days feel like they are whizzing by, but also like they are 100 years long. Deep lineage pain and trauma is moving to the surface and an internal churning keeps us questioning who we have been taught to be and how we can grow beyond that.

The anti-racism resource I want to share with you (at the moment I am sharing a resource each time I send an email) can take just a few minutes to skim through the first time and the impact of it is profound. I believe it has the power to start an internal inquiry about your own privilege that you may have taken for granted, and help you to understand racism in a new way. 

'Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack' click HERE to read.

I want to speak a bit more about the things we take for granted about participating in our society. As a human, we live with an animal instinct that pushes us to assimilate and integrate with the adults and culture around us. We do this for survival. As children, if we are not accepted by the people who we are dependent on for care, we will not survive. 

In a culture that is so severely disconnected, we make great sacrifices to integrate and assimilate because the foundational structures of the society we currently live in are based on a severe disconnect. Disconnect from the planet we live on and even an inability to connect to those we deeply love.

This is why I want to share this video with you. It's an excerpt from our most recent Awaken Weekend. In it, I talk about the kind of bravery it takes to enter into the uncharted territory beyond who we have been taught to be. This has everything to do with transforming your sex-life as well. Beyond what you have been taught is the sex you have been longing for.

How do we truly learn to receive love?

How do we move beyond the neuroses that our society perpetuates?

How do we bravely become conscious of our disconnect and, rather than berate ourselves, meet ourselves with love? Give ourselves a chance to heal and open to something deeper?

What might life be like on the other side? Beyond who we have become in order to survive within this fragmented structure?

This video doesn't contain the answers per se, but it's an exploration. I think that's what we are being invited into now, it's time to explore. Time to explore what lies beyond what we thought has kept us safe, time to open into something unknown, time to allow ourselves to be unsettled and uncomfortable as we awaken to new possibilities.

With love,

Charu

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P.S. Always grateful for your comments, likes and shares on these videos. They help us to keep growing our online community during this time when we are not having live in person events. Thank you.

Beyond Great Sex...

Hello!

How are you doing as the world continues to change? I continue to hope that the content I create and share with you can bring nourishment and maybe even pleasure during this strange time.

In this video we talk about the benefits of Tantra as they expand beyond just great sex. 

Can the practices I share bring you to experience better sex? Absolutely.

Is that ALL they do? Definitely not!

Chances are, if you are here, you don’t just want better sex. You want to go beyond sexual technique, you want some kind of an integration between sex and spirit… you want your experiences in sex to lead you to an awakening.

The great news is: this is totally possible.

The challenging news: it’s going to take a lot more than just learning to give a better hand-job (or whatever sexual technique you think would make you a ‘better lover’).

This is what I share, the essential techniques and practices to profoundly shift how you experience life, and as an amazing side-effect, enjoy deeply fulfilling lovemaking. :)

In this video, I talk a bit about how we do this and the kind of amazing awakenings that can happen far beyond the bedroom.

If this sounds intriguing to you, the VERY BEST way to get started is to join us for our Virtual Awaken Weekend! Our next one is coming up June 27/28. To learn more and register click HERE.

With love,

Charu

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How Tantra can help your relationship…

Hi Everyone!

The Tantric embodiment work that I share has been invaluable in my explorations of deep, long-term, committed partnership.

I think lots of people come to this work to reconnect sexually and, of course, our sexual connection (or lack of) is often reflective of deeper things within ourselves and our partnerships.

So, how does the Tantric practice support partnership? 

In this video I explain some of the key components for when and how these practices can be used to support you in navigating conflict, communicating clearly and getting to the heart of the matter.

As I say in the video, I don’t know how anyone navigates partnership without these tools!

If you like this video, please ‘like’ it or leave a comment! It helps to spread the word about this work!

And if you want to go deeper into this exploration in your own partnership during this time, I have created the The Awaken Weekend.

Make sure to sign up for our newsletter to stay up to date on our next Awaken Weekend, as well as other events and special offers.

For more information, click HERE.

I look forward to sharing in this new way with you. 

With love,

Charu

P.S. Did you know we are on instagram? Give us a follow: https://www.instagram.com/embodytantra/

New Video (Ejaculation Control: My controversial thoughts)

Men...

You might have heard the rumors... that Tantric sex can last for hours and you can even experience orgasm without ejaculation. 

The good news is... this is TRUE!! AND... the practice that will teach you how to do this, often gets taught in ways that can be counter-productive.

Here is what is amazing about learning this practice:

*experience multiple orgasms 

*support you in receiving nurturing energy that is generated in sex rather than releasing it

 *allow you to last as long as you would like in bed

 *create a space for both you and your lover to get more out of lovemaking 

 *eradicate the feeling of depletion after sex

…however, I have seen this practice be used in ways that is actually damaging to men, their personal awakening as well as their relationships.

In this video, I talk about what to be aware of it you are interested in learning this practice, or if you are already experimenting with it. 

If you are intrigued and want to learn more about bringing this practice into your life in an integrated way, I teach the building blocks in my Virtual Awaken Weekend. We have one coming up June 27/28. Learn more and register HERE!

With love,

Charu

P.S. If you enjoyed this video please ‘like’ and share it with your friends! We need your support to keep our doors open after losses due to not being able to hold live events. Thank you!